2015-12-15: Hi! You're probably here because you did a Google search for 'plus sized horseback riders' or you saw my content quoted elsewhere. There are a couple of things I'd like you to know.

I am still here! But I am living away from my horses and not riding often. I could tell you a lie and say that I am, but I have always endeavored to give you the truth here. As a result, I'm not feeling terribly motivated to write blog posts and I feel out of touch with the community.

I'd love for you to stay a while and look back through the archives. Visit the links listed below. We still have an active forum community and I post on the Facebook page from time to time.

I have tentative plans to try to get more involved in the horse world in 2016, and I will absolutely share whatever that adventure becomes with you, so keep checking back!

Friday, July 6, 2012

Setting Goals

I love making a list. I don't know why, but there is something so satisfying about crossing something off, even if it is something tiny like making a phone call or sending someone an email. My most productive days often start with a list.

I think that having goals in life are important - goals to improve your life, goals to make you happy. Sometimes you may want something that seems so incredibly out of reach that you don't even try in the first place. That's where I think a list comes in handy in goal setting. Nobody ever climbed a mountain by starting at the peak.

A list is a good way to map the path to your ultimate desired end result, and an excellent way to be able to look back, midway through your journey and say "look how far I have come already". If you don't give yourself credit for the journey, how are you supposed to enjoy the destination?

I meant to share this video quite a while ago, so I hope that my permission to share it still stands - you might have seen it on the FB fanpage back in April when I shared it, but I'm going to share it again. This is a video of two women from the UK who met through our forum and together, decided they were going to go on a beach ride. If I recall correctly, there was a bit of a road there and they posted a list of the things that they needed and wanted to do to be able to accomplish the ultimate goal - a good gallop on the beach:

(The girls are wearing the Fuller Fillies ROSIE POSY Denim Breeches if you're curious and want some RAD pink riding pants!)

Overall, I think what they accomplished was pretty awesome, and it thrilled me beyond belief to see them getting out and doing it - after checking off many of the goals on their list to get there.

Figure out what you want - what you really want... whether it is to ride at all, or to ride a dressage test with your horse. Figure out the steps that will get you there and write them down, and then work toward each component on your list. It is easy, when you are far away from your goal, to get mired up in how long it is going to take you to get there or how many hurdles you have to go over to make it to the desired end result. I find that breaking things down into smaller, managable targets to achieve helps you not to get frustrated or discouraged, and allows you to feel success and bolster your self confidence sooner, which I think helps you to continue to achieve your goals. Once you have accomplished something and feel good about yourself for doing it, the next task becomes that much easier.

So let's discuss - what are your goals and share your list to get there!


  1. My current goal ... Find a horse that won't cause me to have a panic attack when I start to get on and ride. And preferably one that comes from an honest seller.

  2. First of all, thank you for this blog. I have recently come across it.

    I was recently given a beautiful paint mare. It's a pretty neat story behind how we came to be together. I am still learning to ride, I am not quite balanced enough. My goal is to be a more confident rider, to learn to neck rein, learn more about natural horsemanship, and learn a little bit about barrel racing or pole bending.

  3. Lovely video. They look like they are having a fabulous time! I wonder where I can get a lovely horse like those ridden by these ladies:-)

  4. My goal is to eventually get back on. I'm kinda with The Pink Equestrian there. Have horses, don't ride 'em. :(

  5. I make lists too! Mostly I have learned to make lists of things that stress me out and have to be done -mostly school work, but lists and mind maps work well as aides for brainstorming for blogging ideas as well. ;)